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Welcome to Montana Couples
Connection! Before, or when, your relationship gets rocky. . . Dr. Jana Staton is repeating her popular video seminar and study group for therapists Sat. Jan. 21 & 28, 2012
Marriage Therapy - A Research Based Approach Based on the Work of Dr. John Gottman
Click on
the Events and classes button to the left for info and flier The Montana
Couples Connection website is for all couples committed to a serious, intimate relationship. What makes relationships
work over a lifetime? What real dangers erode love? What skills help couples get through the tough times?
Here you can find practical knowledge that you can use every day. We offer assistance in strengthening couple relationships,
tips and ideas, links, and information about local programs, classes, and counseling for couples in Western Montana. Our mission is to serve all couples who are committed
to a serious, intimate relationship, formally married or not. We also offers information and services to individuals who are
seeking knowledge and relationship skills to improve their current or future relationships. The philosophy of marriage
& relationship education is straightforward and simple: the more you can learn about the skills that successful couples
actually use, the better your relationship will be. Now, for the first time, the knowledge and practical strategies that couples
need are being taught, geared to the life-cycle: -- what makes relationships work over a lifetime, what are the real dangers
that erode love, what skills help couples get through the tough times. This is practical knowledge that couples can put to
use right away The Montana Couples Connection is an independent association of local relationship educators and couples
counselors and is not affiliated with any organization or religious institutions. We offer classes and materials to the public,
for community organizations and agencies, and for various faith congregations. THIS PAGE WILL SOON BE DEVOTED TO OUR PARTNER AND REFERAL
CONNECTIONS. Check out our HOT TIPS and HOT TOPICS pages for good topical information.
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Gridocked ArgumentsGridlock
Do you have one issue that you are absolutely in "gridlock"
over?
"Gridlock" is the word John Gottman uses to describe what many couples experience, including those happily
married - one issue that you can't discuss without getting angry and retreating in hopeless silence. What's going
on here?
Gridlock happens when there are two differing dreams or life goals that get called into play, sometimes over
a seemingly trivial event. For example, some couples have different financial dreams which they may not be fully aware of,
and have never shared - one is dreaming of early retirement from a stress-filled job, the other dreams of salting away money
for a cabin in the woods. If the couple has never recognized these different dreams, or found a way to honor ‘both',
they'll end up arguing over the cost of a dinner out, and wondering why each other are being " SO unreasonable".
The solution for gridlock is threefold:
Become aware and recognize each other's dreams that
underlie your conflict.
Confront fears that each of you has about the other's dreams.
Work out a way of honoring both partners ' dreams.
Sound simple? Well, it may, or may not be, for you. The
classes and programs listed on the MT Couples Connection website can help you learn how to break the gridlock. And if gridlock
is affecting your relationship, but change is beyond your grasp even after learning some skills, Marriage Works! offers a
brief, 3 or 4 session intervention to help couples work through these three steps.
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